Kids - What is bullying?

Bullying is when one person behaves in a way that controls another person by force or coercion. In other words, if another person is behaving toward you in ways that make you do and say things you do not want to do or say - you are being bullied.  The same is true if you are trying to make someone else do or say something that they do not want to do – you are behaving as a bully.

If you do not think or feel that what you are being forced to do or say is right, then you should understand that you DO NOT have to do or say it!   

Short-term repetition of bullying behavior has short-term consequences, most of which can be forgotten over time.  However, if the bullying goes on all the time there may be long-term consequences for both the bullied and the bully.  

Common Characteristics of bullies:

There are certain characteristics  in common with most bullies.   It is important to recognize the basic characteristics of those who choose to hurt others so that we may help them build other acceptable characteristics such as taking responsibility for their actions. 

• They are concerned ONLY about themselves and do not care about other people’s feelings.
• They want control and power over others, and will do anything to get it.
• They lack sympathy.
• They are willing to use and abuse others to get what they want.
• They may feel pain inside, perhaps because of their own inadequacies and insecurities.
• They find it difficult to understand another person’s perspective.
• They lack compassion.